Giving up when not sure if it's WAW, MLC or both?

[sandi2]

Thank you. I find that fasinating. My parents were very strict on me. No emotional abuse or physical, but I was never allowed to throw a fit of temper or no telling what kind of spanking I would have received b/c they did believe in spanking!! My dad was military and it carried over into his srict teaching as a father. It was "yes sir!" and that is all. He did not believe he should have to explain his reason.....just that he said it was enough. My mother tried to tell him, but he didn't listen. I loved my father, but was actually afraid of him.....afraid that I would do something wrong and get a spanking.....until I was almost grown. He wasn't the type to hold me on his lap or read stories to me. I don't remember him playing with me. He was raised to believe that kids were to be seen and not heard. He never told me anything but one time....and I had better remember it or it was a spanking. However, as he began to turn lose of his WWII horrors and began to mellow out, then we began to get closer. Of course, by then, I was about ready to leave home. We began to spend more one on one time and I learned more about what he had gone through during the war. He had been so young and saw horrible things a kid should never experience. Anyway, it seemed the older he became, the closer we got and I adored him. I still say he was too strict on me when I was little, but who knows what I may have turned out to be like? (lol) The point is that I loved him so much and missed him terribly when he died.

I guess the first thing I thought of when I read your post was that people try to blame something in a fat's person life on their past....and that is why they over eat. I just love food and if I eat too much, I'll gain weight.

Anyway, guess I missed all of that when I was over on the MLC forum. Maybe I make a vist back there. Most people thought I did not have a MLC b/c I was too old for one (lol) but I seemed to have the signs. Others thought it was my desire to escape an unhappy home life. Whatever it was......it was the worst thing that ever happened to me and I never want that again.

Thanks,
Sandi