Do you think it was easier to have some sort of "friendship" with him, when the OW fell out of the picture?
Yes, Donna, so much easier. I don't think I would be this way if xH and OW were together. I would have SO many issues with the girls being around her and the kids, playing happy family. She is not a good mother (xH realized this as well when the fog wore off) and I would have problems. And yes, problems with keeping it peaceful with xH as well. Big time.
xH is seeing someone. She has the same name as D4. So cute. Not. But he says they are just friends. Mmmmhmmmm...I told him "Forgive me, but I have been burned by the friend thing in the past" and left it at that. He has introduced the girls to her (as his friend), going against all we have discussed and settled on. I am listening to Sally M when she texts me and just simply says "At least its not ____ (OW)". So true. This new woman started seeing xH at the time of the divorce (or close enough for xH to justify it), and as long as she is nice to my girls, I have to be good with it. This woman was not my friend first, or a friend of our marriage. This woman (please Lord!) is not married.
So, that's my long answer. The short answer is yes. I would have a much harder time if xH was with OW, for so many reasons.
But he says they are just friends. Mmmmhmmmm...I told him "Forgive me, but I have been burned by the friend thing in the past" and left it at that. He has introduced the girls to her (as his friend), going against all we have discussed and settled on. I am listening to Sally M when she texts me and just simply says "At least its not ____ (OW)". So true. This new woman started seeing xH at the time of the divorce (or close enough for xH to justify it), and as long as she is nice to my girls, I have to be good with it. This woman was not my friend first, or a friend of our marriage. This woman (please Lord!) is not married. 
