Hope4Us and Puppy......you guys......you're the best. I wanted to contact the mods last night (err...this a.m. actually) and ask them if they would just delete all those stupid posts I sent. I should know by now when I sat up all night that I end up saying somethings that I shouldn't. I just get too tired and need to go sleep and can't due to the Fibro...but anyway, I hope by now that both of you know me well enough to know when I am playing around with you in my weird way and when I'm serious and when I am mixing it together (man, I don't expect much, do I?).
Anyway, I understand fully about Puppy's titles and he has been nothing....nothing but respectful to me. I should not be so sensitive about other women who have cheated on their H's being called what they are! Like I said....it is out of my own self induced pain that I re-act.
You are very correct in that every stitch is a little bit different and through the time that you, Puppy and I have had our differeces of opinions about the exposure......I have done a lot of thinking about it. Now I still maintain that in my partiuclar stitch that it would have caused major fallout that would hurt many, many people to learn what I did. I was exposed but I pray to God that no more will find out for their sakes. I already feel that I have lost what took a lifetime to build and that God may never allow me to be in the place that I once was (which I can't get into that) but just try to trust me on that part. I still do not think it should be gossiped about or revealed by the spouse to everyone around town. But, if the affair is flaunted and apparently there is no shame, or if it is being whispered around town about the A, then I have had some second thoughts about the parents being "warned" about what is whispered and also if there are older kids in the home. I still want to protect the innoncent and if a couple can work out the ugly mess with as few people being involved as possible.....then I still believe in taking that route. But, I try to be open and at least consider and re-think about things that are discussed and I believe I have on that subject.
I hope you and Puppy both know I respect you a lot! I tease and pick at Puppy .......just b/c he's Puppy (lol). No, seriously, I do it b/c I like him and I know he can take it. I think he feels the same by me (I hope he does). And....I hope he reads this b/c it is to him also.
I swear, you would think that I drank when I stay up late.....but I promise I don't touch a drop....lol. I will have to do like I read another poster said she put a message on her phone to keep mouth closed.
Anyway, I should know to go back and catch up on a story before I re-act and open my big mouth. I am concerned about your W. I do feel that she is struggling to do the "right" thing. But, sweetie, I think she is very weak and she needs a man to help her stay strong. She needs her H. I hope that something will work out that she will change her mind and move with you when you leave to move back home. It could be a brand new beginning for the two of you, and I hope she will see that. Perhaps, something will be said to make her think about that. I used to move around when I was a kid and yes, it is hard when you're in school, but he'll be fine....especially if he "wants" to go back home. I worry about her holding back and using him as her excuse. I worry that she may still have some lose ends in an EA that has not been snipped.....even if it is just all still in her fantasy.
Well, you know I want only the best for you.....always have. You have been a trooper......I hand you that!! How much time do you have before you will have to move? You probablys said and I was too out of it for it to register.
Anyway, take care and I'll check back. I'll try not to wait so long in between times. I get caught up in one or two that are having a really bad time of it and the next thing you know.....I have lost track with some of my old favorites. Oh, BTW, is that what you call a long post??? (lol)
Love ya, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
