New Here-From Newcomers- hoping for more input...

[optimistwife]

Well, it has been a strange week.
H has finished his boards on Monday, which is one of the major things he had to get through. His plans for going out with his friends fell through so he has been staying at the house since Tuesday. I don't really ask how long he is staying, as I am working on not being controlling and evaluating every action of his.

He's been in a funky mood though. More distant, less affectionate. He seems to think his test went well, so I really don't think that is it. I am not sure if it is being around his family, the holidays, or if he just has some time to think about our situation.

He has been commenting all week that he really wants a new video game coming out, and that I could buy it for him. After reading the 5 Love languages I have realized that on of my H major LL is receiving gifts, and this has been an issue for us in the past that he has not felt loved because my LL is acts of service and I continually am trying to do things for him- which he does not appreciate.

So I went online today and purchase the video game, and then sent him an e-mail with a pic of the game saying merry x-mas. He didn't seem so pleased about it- said I didn't have to do that for him, he would have rather gotten it from a different place because it came with an extra something or other. In the end he e-mailed back and said thanks, but the gesture feels like it fell flat.

He has been going through closets packing leftover stuff from the house. I am trying to not read into this, but it seems like he is clearing the remainder of his stuff. Perhaps he is vascilating towards things not working out and doesn't want the guilt of receiving gifts from me?

I am not sure. Things have been going fairly well for a while, but still no R talk. There is a huge elephant in the room. Not sure what his thoughts are about him and me, but he has been talking about (by that I mean sharing) his future plans with me ( but not about us)