Stage 2.25

[Jen_Jam]

hey ITH - this IS a positive, but it may not yet be piecing. I had this stage too .... I called it "the evaluation". My H went through his first stage of getting away from me and deciding it was all over. I asked him to consider it carefully, as he was throwing a lot away. He agreed to. Then I concentrated on GAL and tried hard not to push (I didn't always succeed). During this time I could see H looking at me (from the corner of my eye) looking puzzled. I concentrated on working on ME only. On making MYSELF happy. H had gone from "I want out" to "leaving will hurt, staying will hurt" to "I can't see much of a happy future for us together, but I accept it's possible, I'm going to wait and see". (note these are not his actual words, rather my assesment of how he was).

I believe you're likely to be in this last stage I've mentioned above. Your H may not know HOW you can be happy together, but he has accepted that COULD happen. I agree 100% with what Beth has said about running, this sums it up perfectly. Slow and steady wins this race. I know you can do it!