He doesn't want to go to your family's events because he has been a s*thead to you, and he doesn't want to face people who know that about him. Like an ostrich, he thinks he if doesn't see the people who disagree with him, they no longer exist. You, on the other hand, have no reason to hide from his family. You are married and know you are married. He is pretending he is free, and single, and has no responsibilities. Just because he does wrong, doesn't mean you should answer him tit for tat. Yes, go to events for the family, because whether he likes it or not, you are in the family, and you have been invited.
