Things are OK. H and I exchanged some e-mails this week and he asked me to go for lunch, which we had today. It was nice to see him and we had a good time. He noticed that I had a new necklace, and at one point I offered to bring him some of his clothes that I still have, but he said now. Maybe he just has new clothes and doesn't have space. So odd. At one point I got upset and was crying (not about the R- other stuff). H looked really upset and apologised for upsetting me, and held my hand to try and comfort me. He had tears in his eyes. I don't know why he doesn't realise he loves me. *sigh*. He feels sad when I sad- I've got that song stuck in my head.
Anyway, when we said goodbye he gave me a hug and we stood looking at each other for a while. He asked me if I'd like to go out for some drinks next week and I said I'd really like that. Then this afternoon we exchanged some more e-mails, and I'm going to text him later to let him know when I enjoy a comedy program he recommended today. His exact words were that he really likes this comedian, and he thought I would too.
CEO is confusing me. We had a lovely time last Friday and then exchanged some texts on Saturday. On Sunday we were working at the office but he was really ill and ended up lying down in the middle of the office and talking to me about his eye (which is injured and he's worried about). It was difficult for me to see him from my desk and talk so I went and sat beside him (but at a distance) and validated his worry. He was really too ill to work so we each then went to our respective homes, and then exchanged a couple of texts about the film on TV. This week he's been chatty by turns, sweet by turns and flirtatious by turns, but never as flirtatious as he was pre the flirting hiatus last month. He didn't tell anyone at work that we were out together on Friday, which is interesting but could just be for an easy life. I've noticed that he doesn't like it when I'm sad/stressed/upset so I need to try and control that, except that everyone should be allowed to have the odd bit of stress in the office, especially when you're working hard and everyone else isn't bothering to show up.
Anyway, things continue to plod along. Christmas party season is starting soon so there should be some opportunities to hone my flirting with H and with CEO respectively. Hairy guy sent me an amusing e-mail on Tuesday, and big ears guy an e-mail on Thursday (with useful business information- romance isn't dead after all). *sigh, sigh, sigh* One of those days today.
I hope you guys are all OK and doing well- I need to catch up.
L. xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
(((Lisa))) Wow, I'm first! I'm glad you met up with h. Do you think that you are making progress with the stuff that he promised to do for you? If you are do you think that it is helping your DBing and/ or reconciliation as a by product?
He is starting to notice you again and drinks next week imply evening which means looking ultra foxy and sparkly!
CEO may be a little confused after last week and dealing with his feelings. Blowing a bit hot and cold is symptomatic of that imo. He obviously cares about you.
Sorry you are having one of those days. I hope you have some nice plans for the weekend.
Thanks for visiting! I'm not sure if the H helping thing is helping with my DBing but it's giving him a good opportunity to help me and be supportive, and I'm able to thank him profusely in return. Evening drinks does require foxy sparkle- I like that! I'm shopping on Sunday so will try to pick up a suitable outfit, a kind of catch-all thing that I can use on H and CEO
Good point about CEO. Maybe a bit caving, and also stressed with work- he's still working now and it's nearly 11 on a Friday (I can see on my Blackberry). Next week's a big week with investors, so hopefully things will relax a bit after that. Fingers crossed!
I'm decorating tomorrow and shopping on Sunday- quite a good weekend all in all. I haven't shopped for ages!
I'm glad to see you back with your own new thread even though I can definitely understand taking a break!
All these interactions with H sound good. Is this more contact than usual, or does it just seem that way to me? I don't understand why he doesn't realize he loves you either, because it seems obvious to me.
I wonder, with CEO, if he doesn't like it when you get stressed because you're the only one he can rely on? It sounds like he needs to go to the eye doctor too!! But that is SO EXCITING that he's meeting with investors. It would be so wonderful if you could save the company!!
I hope you have lots of fun shoppping I want to hear all about your new outfits!!
I can't figure your H. By this point, he should realized that there is only one Lisa, and that he is very lucky! Instead, he is keeping both of you in limboland! Why does he not move, one way or the other? I don't understand it. I guess I'm not supposed to!
Maybe we should all give up on trying to understand my H?! I guess he remains confused and probably doesn't want to upset the aubergine, and feels like he should try and take care of me at the moment. He probably doesn't know himself what he's doing.
Handsome- you're such a charmer! I loved your new look bedroom. I can totally imagine padding around there in my socks
Lovely- this is a lot more interaction than there's been over the past 2-3 months or so. Something's definitely different, although I don't know what's caused it. I was pleased that he asked me to go for a drink next week- it'll be the first time we've been out on a planned evening since August.
CEO has been to 2 eye doctors and he needs to wait for 3 months now to see what happens to his right eye (he punched himself in it while he was sleeping and now can't see anything out of it clearly). Poor thing- he spent ages on Sunday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday talking to me about how worried he is about it. I'm trying to listen and validate as I guess he doesn't have too many people to discuss it with. I like your theory on why he doesn't like me being upset, and was wondering if there might be a component of being paranoid about girls thinking he's mean. He's told me a couple of times that girls he's been out with thought he was horrible so they just became friends instead of anything romantic, and he has a fragile ego so I wonder if he's sensitive about upsetting people.
We (H and I) exchanged a text last night which is a change. We haven't exchanged texts on a Friday night (it was only one each though) since he left. Friday night was an evening he usually spent with the aubergine and his former colleagues but from what he was saying yesterday he hasn't done that for a couple of weeks. Not that that means anything (but one can only hope)
So, H sent me a text message earlier saying to have a good day today. He was replying to my last text last night, but this is all a bit odd- texts on a Friday AND a Saturday?!
Trying not to overthink or overinterpret what it means, but it's definitely different.
Oooohhh, Lisa. I'm going to just hope and pray that maybe your H is starting to realize what he's missing and is tentativel poking his head out of his cave. That would be a plus. Who knows where that could lead, hey hey (to quote one of my favorite Britcom characters)
You are such a strong, amazing woman Lisa. I am completely in awe of you and swear that one day I will be as confident as you are.
Keep that beautiful chin up! Looking forward to hearing about the shopping and the new outfit!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Long time since I've stopped by...sort of dropped out of things for awhile. I think you are a very strong woman with a great heart when I hear you story unfold. In a way, all three of you (you, H, CEO) are in limbolands of sorts, hey?
I don't have too much to add, but am catching up on your and others' threads. Just wanted to stop by and say I was thinking about you and wondering how you are doing.
I want to hear all about your new outfits!!