Dday thanks for the post. They are both equally annoying and dangerous. I was glad that i went. i have no expectations from this as i feel most of her actions were an act. She was definitely uncomfortable as me. I had fun and i am taking GS with me today to go visit and enjoy the jacuzzi. As for evaluating her, didn't really give her the recognition she thought she'd get. The "hon" thing is a mystery. I have great plans and just went through my planner to add in weddings and parties i have been invited too, alone. I have at least two functions a month through June, alone.

One thing I found amazing was that i keep telling myself I am the prize at the end of all opf this mess. At thanksgiving, after about an hour, I really believed it. I was in control, comfortable and her presence wasn't an issue for me. she did come by my house yesterday. Younger D called her and told her GS was here an to stop by. when she did, i went into the bedroom and made somephone calls to friends. She asked my son, " where did he go?". None of her damn business thats where. My GS asked her if she was going to the movies with us. she told him no, she was going out to have fun and wouldn't be home till late. I'm sure that was for my benefit. Took him to see Bolt. Great movie, good time.

Concentrating on my bills and my plans for the next couple of weeks. Busy at work and around here. Tried making a home made chicken soup, turned out like crap. I have no idea what went wrong. Will try again tomorrow.

Dday, I am taking your advice and watching myself with regards to evaluating and expecting. My added mantra when I see her or see something from her is this "It meant nothing, she didn't mean it, believe nothing she says and half of what you see." It works and it keeps her out of my head.

TGone, glad your Thanksgiving went well. Ignoring my W was best for me, it let me enjoy everyone else's company. Her actions, I am sure, were not meant to be anything other than an act for her father and my kids. I posted them in my journal and closed the book. As long as she is with OM, then there are no baby steps, no psitive signs, nothing. I have now committed my mindset to that and only that with regard to her. Everyone enjoy your weekend, i am..