Maybe I should be in piecing part 4?

[Hope4us]

Hey Hope4,

do you have a copywrite on that letter?... It said so much how I feel.. I would Love to use most of it in a letter to my W

Hope things are going good in your part of town..

Doc

All yours Doc. Have at it. I don't know if it's done much good in my sitch or not. I know it had some affect as a few minutes after W would have read it she was TM'ing EGF and her new friend. I guess I should just call the new friend M. Anyway, she hasn't said anything about the note and nothing's really changed.

Well, Once again, I'm just so confused. As I'm sure W is more than ever. Warning, this is going to be long (I figured since Sandi posted to me I'd pay her a compliment by making this post long!)

Yesterday morning W was quiet. We talked about a few things. The situation in India and stuff like that, but she was not very talkative. Around noon S16 took off with a friend and I asked W if she wanted to do a little Christmas shopping. She said "I don't know". I told her, "ok, I'm going to go, if you want to join me, great, if not, I'll be home a little later. She didn't say anything. I went and got a shower and she did the same. I was going to just leave while she was in the shower, but I thought I'd wait to leave just in case she wanted to go, but wouldn't say so.

So she finished, came down stairs, went out and had a smoke and when she came inside I went and put my coat on and grabbed my keys and she walked over and started putting her jacket on. Ok, so I guess she's going.

Not much was said on the drive to the mall area. We went to Borders first and it was like a switch was turned on. We went in and she was a different person. We found the books our neice wants, sat down and had a cup of coffee and talk, talk, talk.

Went to Best Buy to pick up an Xbox for S16 (doing our best to help the economy!), then a quick stop at the grocery. I asked W if she had anywhere else she wanted to go and she said no (another mood swing). I told her I was hungry and did she want to go to get some wings. She didn't say anything. We drove down the road a bit and I said "did you answer me and I just didn't hear you or did you not answer me about getting something to eat". She quietly said "ok".

So we walked into the sports bar and one of the waitresses started talking to me. She's very young, but one time when W was hot and heavy in her affair I had gone to this place and this waitress had seen my Disney credit card and that started a conversation about Disney. Every time I saw her after we would have a nice conversation. So when we walk in, this waitress says to me "hey, long time no see"! We talked for a couple minutes and then W and I went and sat down. Mood change again. W started talking and talking and talking and was like that the rest of the night. I had just planned on eating and going home but after we'd ordered a drink the waiter asked if we wanted to order food and I started to, but W said "We'll order in a little bit". And we sat there for almost 3 hours, watching the H.S. state football championships, talking, talking, talking.

S16 TM'd W and asked where we were and then asked if we'd bring him home some wings. So we ordered for him and then came home. Got home and S16 was watching "Jerimiah Johnson" (his favorite movie of all time, man I love that kid) and W sat down and watched with us. I thought that was big because she's never watched the movie with us because "it's stupid" (how you can say a movie is stupid without ever watching it is beyond me). And we had a good time watching. S16 was being his silly self and we were all laughing and joking while watching the movie. We all went to bed (well, W stayed on her couch) after the movie was over.

So, here are some of the comments that happened during the day.

W: I don't know what EGF is going to do since I'm not going to be in the same building with her for 3 months (I could hardly contain my smile at that one!)

W: I don't know how long EGF will be working at our company (she's a contract employee). Boyfriend is now working about a half hour the other direction from us and already lives 45 minutes north of us. EGF likes what she's doing, but wants to go back to school and find a job with benefits, etc (I sat there thinking, So, EGF is now "in love" with the next BF and is going to use him to pay for her to go to school, etc and then HE won't be enough and she'll divorce him making up the excuse 'I think I discovered I only married him because he took care of me' just like she's made up an excuse with her previous two H's).

W: (after a conversation about the wife of one of the guys that works for me) GF M's ex used to slap her around and that's why she divorced him. It really hit her hard when their D chose to live with her dad.
Me: I think men who abuse their wives and/or kids are cowards. It takes a real man to slap a woman around (I had to say that. First, it's completely how I feel. I'd love to kick the chit out of ANY man who hits a woman and second, OMW had told me that OM had pushed her around before and punched a wall next to her head one time which tells me if they lived together all the time he probably would have abused her. And when I sent W the F you note back in Sept I told her that one of the reasons I told the kids was there was not way I was going to let an abusive man [and I use that term lightly] in my kids lives.)

W: (in a conversation about S20 and his new "friend"). Did S20 ever tell you what happened between S20 and GF?

Me: No.

W: I told S20 that GF had TM'd me the other night. S20 told her he knew because he and GF still talk.

Me: I know, S20 told me he talked to her the other day.

W: What else did he tell you?

Me: He told me the other day he'd looked at some TM's he'd saved that GF had sent him telling him how much she loved him etc. He then decided he needed to get rid of those TM's because it was stopping him from getting over her and he immediately felt better, like it was closing a chapter in his life (This is the truth. He told me that on the way home from picking him up from school. Amazing that a 20 yr old KNOWS what he needs to do to get over a former love).

W doesn't respond. We were almost home by that time and it was quiet the rest of the way home but then the movie and S16 being the entertainment.

Ok, I told you it was going to be long. What's everyone think?