Does MLC contribute to WAW? Infidelity?

[AlexEN]

Relatively new to this but wondering if anyone has any opinions as to how/when an MLC is related to WAW? Are they truly separate and distinct? I think my WAW suffering from MLC, too... My own opinion is that the MLC just magnifies the underlying issues that led to being a WAW and the infidelity... My sitch at link below. Thanks...

[fisherman]

Alex,

Read the mlc resources post. Is your wife acting totally the opposite of who she once was?

Does she show any signs of confusion?

Here is a link for you to check out. Read the post titled.

Debate WAW Vs. MLC

Well actually read the whole set of resources carefully to give you a better understanding.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1539436

[sleeper]

Hi Alex

Only you can diagnose your W's sitch. Some say when a WAW leaves they are done, it's over, they don't look back and there is no mistaking it. MLC WAW may look like this at first but then there will be changes.

Trapt's advice is good, go to the mlc resource threads. Read stages of mlc.

Has she said anything like this?

I don't know who I am anymore.
I want to live a life, not just exist.
I'm all messed up.
It's not you, it's me.
I don't want to hurt anyone.
I still want us to be family.
We are getting old.
I want to live before I die.
I think I'm depressed.
You're trying to control me.
Stop trying to parent me.
I deserve to be happy.

New hair, clothing style, talk of plastic surgery?
Dressing like she did when she was a teenager?
Obsessed with the culture of her adolesence (i.e. the 80's)?
General obsession with appearance?
New friends, activities.
Cut contact with old friends, family, HER CHILDREN?
Spending like a madman?

Ever wonder if she's developed multiple personality disorder,is bi-polar or on drugs because you don't recognize the personality in your W's body?

If the above describes your W it's probably mlc.

Sorry this is so long, I feel like I have a phd. in this crap from The University of Hard Knocks.

fade to "Pomp and Circumstance"..........

[AlexEN]

Sleeper,

Some of these fit the bill and others do not...

I don't know who I am anymore. NO, EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE - SHE FEELS LIKE SHE KNOWS WHO SHE IS NOW AND DIDN'T BEFORE
I want to live a life, not just exist. YES.
I'm all messed up. NO.
It's not you, it's me. NO, IT'S MOSTLY MY FAULT.
I don't want to hurt anyone. YES.
I still want us to be family. YES.
We are getting old. YES.
I want to live before I die. YES.
I think I'm depressed. NO, SHE THINKS SHE HAS IT ALL TOGETHER.
You're trying to control me. SHE'S INSINUATED THAT THOUGH NOT STATED IT OUTRIGHT.
Stop trying to parent me. SAME AS LAST ONE.
I deserve to be happy. YES.

New hair, clothing style, talk of plastic surgery? YES; WANTED BOOB JOB.
Dressing like she did when she was a teenager? NO.
Obsessed with the culture of her adolesence (i.e. the 80's)? NO.
General obsession with appearance? YES.
New friends, activities. NO.
Cut contact with old friends, family, HER CHILDREN? NO.
Spending like a madman? YES!

So, that's why I still don't know if she's MLC or WAW... If it even really matters.

-AlexEN