Can my 32 year old W have a midlife crisis?

[Jeff3]

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Thanks your the wise words I made the mistake you were talking about. I think the fact that I am still in the house with her has clouded my judgement it is starting to wear me out! I made the mistake of telling her that I wanted the house,I thought that I did it nicely but she felt blind sided and went off saying that I should get a lawyer because if she can't have the house nobody is getting it! oops I talked to a couple of friends who gave me a kick and said it wasn't worth it! So I called her back and apologized for changing my mind the last minute. I said I understand her reaction because that was the agreement (not signed yet)we had made! I said I was having a moment because it was hard to figure out were to live.

She said she understood and we are friendly again. Last night I went out with a friend who is a realestate agent and he showed me what is out there. It helped because there were some nice places. Unfortunately the one I liked is five blocks away from my old house. I love the neighborhood.

Question: how are you in your house are you able to live with the memories? and in your opinion is the house to close if I bought it?

The other funny thing is that my fiends wife is taking my wife out to look at houses tonight. She wanted to see what is out ther e. so Now I have to decide if she doesn't want the house and I buy her out can I live with the memories and if she wants the house how close is too close.

She says she wants to be friends and will still help me set my place up. She was the one that initially told one of our neighbours (she now regrets it) the neighbour pulled me aside and got me fired up a bit (mistake). I promised my wife that I would not talk about it to any one on my street. I doesn't help me to relive it anyway.

This was a long one I think I put the fire out, It is hard to find that fine line between being nice and not getting walked on. 'Either way I need to be one my own for now and perhaps once we are separated and are apart she will come around (I always keep hope but am realistic.) I think that once I am on my own I can focus on me for awhile and become stronger. I will make sure that we leave on friendly terms keeping the door open.

I will stop by your post tommorow

Cheers
Jeff