wow, now I see I'm like 10 pages behind. definitely can't finish that! It sounds as if your having problems with the OW in regards to the son. I will figure it out later.
I want to tell you, that God can give you the strength to do anything. The bible states that in infidelity you have grounds for divorce, but we also know that God is a forgiving God and he sent his son as an example to us, so that we can also be forgiving. I totally agree that you don't need to make any decision right now, but no matter what route you choose, you must learn to forgive for yourself. not for H. Lean on God, and pray for him to give you the strength to forgive. It does not mean you condone what he did, but that you let go of the hurt and that you recognize that he is an imperfect being, someone that we all are, and that God is the only one that will never let us down, nor will he ever hurt us. I will continue praying for you.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
