WAW, "I care but I don't know if I can love you"

[techguy]

Having sex with another person (or 'simulating it') is extreamly destructive. I would not recommend it.

The whole point of PMA, etc, is to make yourself more attractive to your spouse in hopes of attracting them. Running around scr#wing other people will not generate attraction from spouse. It will just piss her off and drive her away.

You want to be attractive, happy and just far enough away that wife has to take a few steps forward to reach you.

I think you should even be carefull about dating too much at this point. Most people generate GAL stuff with buddies or platonic friendships. But I know you are very, very close to D so a degree of dating is probably more justified. Just try to be low key about it.