tying another knot #8

[marriedCrazy]

Hey ((((BG)))),

Just stopped by for a brief looksie; on my way out the door for some GAL. Hope you're doing well.

Tom

[Tomato]

Dear sweet babygirl

I hope you are finding many blessings in your day. In all you do ..do it with love.

[Tomato]

((( BG )))

[davidswife]

BG,

Sounds like you're hanging in. Good to hear you were able to get some rest.

How are the kids doing?

dw

[Babygirl]

we havent told my d13 and s12, they have family in town and went back to their dads. he did send me an email saying he wanted to try and save us. all i really know, is that it is his, I want to see the proof, and his bday is 2 days after mine. he wont talk about it, and i know pup to be quiet, but the part of him being quiet is getting rediculous!
then this morning, he sent me this email



I understand you are beyond mad at me, you have every right to be angry and hate me. I know what this has done and I feel awful for what I have done. You act as if I set out to just hurt you. I kept this a secret for so long because I didn’t want to hurt you, I knew this would destroy you, I never wanted you to have to feel this pain. I know more than anything in the world how much you wanted to give me a baby and knew this was going to cause serious issues. You have every reason to hate me. I never wanted this to happen during the holidays, I didn’t want you to remember them as the day I destroyed you. for what it is worth I had a great day with you yesterday, dinner was great couldn’t get any better than what you cooked, I know it was tuff for you to do and I know you didn’t want to, but im glade you did it. I AM SORRY FOR WHAT I HAVE DONE, I DO LOVE YOU! SORRY!

so input anyone?????????????

so sorry that i havent been making my rounds, this is the worst nitemare thing and it hurts, i promise to be better about it.

[The Wifey]

((((BG))))

Oh honey. This is the thing. He was an absolute worm. But there is now a little boy that he is obligated to. You are going to have to think long and hard here.

Can you love him and forgive him, and make room for this little boy in your life? Because it sucks, but this little boy is innocent and he didn't ask for any of this either.

Because if you love him, and you can make room for the boy to have some part of your life, then you will have your H and she won't. If you can't allow yourself to think about that right now, its ok.

I know what a damn shock this is. But the worm, um, I mean your husband just said he loved you and is sorry. The ball is in your court now, as I see it.

No matter how much you hate the W, she is now tied to you and your H by that little boy. And yes he did this awful thing.

I advise you to pray on this. I don't know what I would do in your place and I won't tell you what to do, either.

In any case, I am here for you honey.

[Babygirl]

idk, anyone from here who has talked to me, knows i have made up new words for him, hate him, want to rip his "boys" off, and still love him.

soooooooooooooooooo many questions. i dont know if i can make any decision until I get some answers! I already know his son, but idk if i can deal with her, and she WONT let H see him around me.

it just so sucks. this crap is BS and it makes my lupus so much worse, the stress.

[MT35]

Hey BG- You know I have no words to tell you other than we are all thinking about you and whatever you decide we will support you. Hope you have a peaceful night.

[davidswife]

Give yourself some time if you need it. Time to think and pray and make whatever decisions you need to make.

I agree that the ball is now in your court. Wait awhile, be still and breathe before you return it. It you decide to return it.

Praying for you.

[Babygirl]

ok, so what would you do? stay or divorce?