SURPRISE!!

[bambam1970]

Wow! I didn't realize it had been so long since I posted. I just read my last one and it ( was 1 year ago! I have read up on everyone off and on, but just not shared. I cannot believe what has happened to everyone. I realized as I was reading how much this board helped me through the most horrible time of my life. A fast recap for those who don't remember me...

My H left 11/15/06 (funny - this year I told my sister it was on the 16th....how soon those things get fuzzy!). We were separated for 10 months and he went through 2 OW until I filed in Aug 07. Divorce was final 12/21/07. I bought a small fixer upper house in the country and have been working on it. The kids and I moved in last December and have been so happy here. They are just finishing my addition which will be my bedroom and bath!!!! I've shared a bedroom with my D9 for a year - I love her so much but am ready to not wake up to polka dot walls and Johnas Brother/Hannah Montana posters! We've completely renovated this house and I did a lot of things myself. It has been a project that has brought me strength and hope.

Things with my X are.....crazy. He is still with OW#2 and my kids really don't like her. She is so pushy and he continues to try and make them a family. We went back to court in October b/c he didn't pay a lot of bills in our name that he was supposed to and I had to assume them....thousands of $$$. Short version - he asked for more overnights to reduce his support and the judge gave him 45 days to prove that he wanted to spend more time with the kids. He is failing. He went to California with his bimbo for 2 weeks during that time giving up time with them. Anyway..the judge ordered us to do family counseling and my kids have been going together and separate. I have been going since the day after he left. My X has been 2 times since court and now we have to go together (no kids) next week to try and come to visitation agreements. So much has happened since I last posted, but it would take pages to tell all. It all adds up to he is spinning continually and the kids and I have moved forward. They have a very minimal relationship with him because he is so unstable. They are working on themselves....they understand they can't control him.

Anyway - I hope to be on here more these days. I'm looking at going back and getting my masters degree soon. My babies are doing well and I am too. I miss sharing with you all.

Hope to hear from my old friends!

Beth