Flipping heck Julia- that's an awful text. Grrrrrr
I really like Essie's suggestions above, and I do think you need to see H face to face to discuss (or at least a phone conversation). I don't think he should be able to just sort the mortgage holiday out without discussing it with you, but the thought that he's trying to avoid a confrontation is, IMHO, spot on.
I think you need to set a boundary- finances need to be discussed in advance, at least, but take the opportunity to validate and listen to him. I bet the OW is putting pressure on him, so you have a great chance to be the understanding beautiful one (which will be easy for you anyway because that's what you are!)
L. xx
PS. BodyWorlds is really fascinating and amazing- I'm jealous!
