Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

Nik, I read further in the Learned Optimism book and he had some suggestions on things to do and I thought I would pass them on. (Credit to Martin Seligman, author of the book.)Below are shortened versions of his suggestions. Maybe you and your H could do them?
*Put aside 5% of last years income to give away to charity. But don't give it to an organization that does the work for you. Actually do the work yourself and interview prospective recipients.
*give up some pleasurable activity that you do once a week. Instead use that time (equivalent of one evening) to dedicate
your time to helping the well-being of others or the community at large. Helping AIDS patients, cleaning up community park, fund raising for you alma mater.
*When asked by a homeless person asks for money, talk to him. Judge as well as you can that he will use the money for non-destructive purposes. If you think he will, give it to him. Give no less than $5. Do this 3 hours per week.
*When you read about particular herioc or despicable acts, write letters: fan letters or mend your way letters. Spend 3 hours per week doing this; do it with as much care as you would writing a report for work.

Anyway, those were his ideas.

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Thanksgiving went pretty well for me. Again (like on D's 21st bday), it was really great having the 4 of us (kids and us) together for a meal. SS and I had a very good argument/discussion afterwards. My H and D played Wii while SS and I talked. Tears from both of us. Then SS, H and I talked. So I was glad that we were all able to be sure to be on the same page.

No big revelations; no changes in status. But it was a nice time.

I'll be curious to hear how everyone else's Thanksgiving went.
I got an offer on one of my listings- I need positive thoughts that it will come together!