Originally Posted By: mishka422
At their age, that would make more sense than them not wanting him to be there.


As much as I would like to believe this, it's difficult.

lwb, S4 will act in the same way. If I say, "Ok, time to get ready for Dad. He's coming to pick you guys up," S4 will say he doesn't want to go with Daddy. Sometimes it's just for a few hours, so I'll tell him it's only for a little while. S4 then says, "Then we're coming back here (home)?" I say yes, then he smiles and says, "Yay!!!" S12 has exhibited the same sort of feelings as well.

It IS troubling that they aren't always thrilled to spend time with their father or when they're asking "when's Dad going home?" I can only think in my sitch that it's because they've witnessed and felt the tension between both their parents, and well let's face it - which parent was prone to react the most angrily? The "scariest" to the child?

So sad.

Anyhow, I'm very glad to hear that you had a nice Thanksgiving \:\) . You deserve all the happiness and good times that are to come your way!

(((((lwb)))))

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