I agree with what you've said about our spouses hurting, too. That is the reason I am not angry with my H. It has been suggested that getting angry might help me stop crying so much. I just cannot do it. And believe me when I tell you I am capable of that emotion.
How does one get angry at a loved one who is not well?
I am going to a funny movie this afternoon and then thinking about another run and then a workout but I will be around the boards. I am never very far from this place these days. It really is my lifeline.