Sorry, I am venting/ ranting as I have no where else to do this without getting the 'you need to get a divorce speech'.
I just got a text from h saying
'Hi, just to let you know... I've spoken to (our mortgage broker) and set up a payment holiday. Basically we won't have to pay any mortgage for the next 8 months. THought that might be a wellcome relief for both. There's a form to fill in, if it comes to me I'll sign it then send it onto you. Hope this sounds ok.'
Just to 'let me know'!!! No it bloody doesn't sound ok!! 8 months of interest building up. 8 months of more limbo of me on my own in this house while he shacks up with her. Making decisions that affect me without discussing it with me. 8 months break from the mortgage will not be a 'welcome relief' for me. I am perfectly capable of paying my share of the mortgage - he is obviously not because he walked away from his responsibilities and took on new ones without thinking of the consequences. Now he's realised he is paying out too much so is side-lining me and racking up more debt for us both. He never sees these things (credit cards, mortgage payment breaks etc) as debt. Yes, we can pay it off when we sell the house but that all means less equity. Not a problem to him as his parents will top it up. HUGE problem for me as some of us don't have a mummy and daddy to save them.
Sorry for the expression of anger. WTF is he thinking?! Not longer term that's for sure. He will still have to deal with this in 8 months!
Now I have a headache...
(((T, Essie))) sorry, I loved what you had to say and I was just about to post back and this came. I will when I am calmer.
