I feel for you man....this is a tough sitch. Perhaps you can find something that has a reasonable commute and you can see your kids on the weekend like I do my D. Not what you would prefer but....any chance the job thing returns to "normal"?
It always surprises me to hear the "best friend" thing. I have heard it from my W also. We must have different ideas regarding friendship because our definitions simply do not match....so I wonder what they really mean by best friends?
She said she'd miss you?? Christ I wish she would dump the slimey ski instructor, and just come home.. sorry, but why cant life be like the movies? Yeah, stupid question.
I'm sorry you have had so much change and turmoil Woog, I am not sure yuo like astrology at all, but you know Uranus went direct today in Pisces.. planet of change and upheaval.. whatever this is doing to your life (and mine and other pisceans) we have to be reassured that there is a point to it all.. that its leading somewhere. Change is a good thing, it just feels so hard in the moment and we naturally, resist it.
Maybe.. you having to move will force your exW to realise what she has done, for example. Who knows.
Thinking of you, Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I spent a little time today talking to a good friend of mine. A person who somehow always manages to say the right things and make me smile even when I didn't that was possible.
I feel better. Not great, but better. I know I can make everything work out somehow in the end. It may not be perfect, but it will be fine. Maybe life just is teaching me one more lesson.
The kids got lots of love today. I tackled both of my boys and just held them tight. My youngest finally goes "what's with this dad"? All I said was "just cause I love you"...
I also told them how much I love them too many times.
I was beginning to worry the kids would wonder why I was heaping so much loving on them yesterday.
Today is quiet. I fear I'm going to be in purgatory for another week or two waiting for my fate. The dynamics of what is happening would be extremely interesting if it weren't happening to me. I can't really explain it at this point but someday I will.
It's funny, as I was reading some threads this morning I noticed one were a number of folks were commenting on the amount of talk their exs, stbxs or significant others do about their job. I realized that I hate to talk about my job outstide of work. I almost never do it unless prompted by someone. My ex used to tell me she had no idea what I did in my job because I never talked about it. The strange part is that I've been quite sucessful and I have a fairly high visibility job, but I hate to talk about it. Soon I may not have much to talk about anyway.
Glad to see you are doing or sounding better. I am like you...I never talk about my job unless someone asks and even then, I tend to talk very briefly. In general, I don't like talking about myself as opposed to my W for instance....that may be it. Anyhow, I hope things turn out ok for you...on the job front and otherwise.
Oh well your not alone Woog, my x never spoke about work at all. He too was quite high up the tree. In the early days I entertained for him etc and did business dinners with him but he stopped going to them when he no longer needed to climb the ladder I guess. He hated to mix business people with his home life but I now wonder whether that was altogether true. I guess being replaced after 40 years dented my confidence and occassionaly makes me question the past .
