Mine ended up being pretty good. The wife called me in the morning, must have been about 7:30. Asked if I had put the turkey in yet and did I remember to take out the giblets.
She was being funny.
We talked for a little bit and then she started to get up herself and then wake up the kids while we were still on the phone. She did end up inviting the neighbor A to the house and she agreed to come. I cooked up a huge breakfast of pancakes and bacon for everyone. The wife and kids came over first and we all ate together. She had told me that the neighbor would come over later. Ends up that she had to go all the way back in to town to have her follow her to the house, so I started making all the sides, too.
We all had a good time. The wife took out the puppies to play with and take 'em for a walk. I was watching her through the front window. She was by herself and I just LOVE watching her interact with them and the kids. She caught me watching her and motioned me to join her outside. We just talked about stuff.
We had no R talk the whole time.
Most of the highlights.
While bringing in the stuff that she brought, and puting things away in the kitchen, while I was cooking breakfast, she had everything packed in an unfamiliar, old ice chest. I know it ain't hers. Then she tells me about how they saw an 8 point buck on the way to the house.
"You know it was an 8 pointer?" "Yeah, it had two, four, six and eight points on the antlers" as she is motioning with her hands. "Wow." "I'm learning" she tells me. "Reaallllly" is all I can say.
Then, sitting down to dinner, saying grace together, I have everyone say something that they are thankful. As the kids go first, the wife has tears streaming down her face. We are sitting on opposite ends of the table and she is seated next to A. A is rubbing her shoulders. When it is the wifes turn, her voice cracking and tears flowing, she says how she is greatful to be here with her kids and to be able to be walking and talking and doing things for herself. She is thankful for our beautiful kids and so on. Then she looks at me and says,
"And for Roger. I'm thankful for you. Thank you for puting up with me."
Dinner was kick ass, thank you very much.
Later, after dinner, she fell asleep on the sofa while I watched football. I knowing how she doesn't sleep at night, I let her sleep for almost 3 hours. Then we watched a movie. D11 was in my room watching her Jonas Brothers stuff, S14 had gone to be with his dad, so D7 sat in between the wife and I on the sofa watching "Yours, Mine and Ours" with Dennis Quaid and Renee Russo. During the movie, we both kept playing with D7, tickling and stuff. Just being close and you could tell that D7 was trying to get us to be closer.
Seven years old and she is trying to position mom and dad's hand to try to hold hands. She is so sweet and sneaky.
Towards the end of them movie, the mom and dad had decided that thing weren't working and then come back together, I hear D7 asking the wife why she was crying. I take a quick glance at her and she was crying and then played it off.
After the movie, we got the kids to shower. They had brought extra clothes and then I asked the wife if SHE brought extra clothes as well and she said that they were in the car. She decided to spend the night, too. Sounds like she had planned it. D7 starts to ask her,
"Where are you going to sleep, mommy? Are you going to sleep with daddy?" "No, baby. I'll probably sleep with you." "Your not gonna sleep with daddy?" "No momma."
I set up S14's futon mattress on the floor in D7's room and put out blankets and pillows for them while the wife took a shower. With D7 already falling asleep on the mattress, the wife heads toward her room and tells me goodnight. I walk over to her and say,
"Hey". She stops at the door. I told her that I work in the morning and I tell her, "I also wanted to say thank you for us having Thanksgiving together." She looks at me and nods her head. "That ok" she's softly says, looking at me with those big browns. "I had a good time today. I really enjoyed it" I tell her. "Me too." I had reached out and put my hand on her shoulder, then looking at her, I went in for a hug. We hugged for a minute, and I told her goodnight.
This morning, I got ready for work, made a big pot of coffee, and then went and checked her car fluids. She needed antifreeze again, so I went to the back of car to see if she still had a container of some. Finding it in the back, she also had a book bag of books. A quick glance inside showed that they were library books. A do it yourself divorce book, a parent agreement book, and a helping children cope book.
Could be that she has had them and was ready to return them or it could be that she just got them. Have no idea.
I went back inside and finished getting ready and then decided to write her a note and left it on the counter,
"Good morning,
Hope you got some sleep. Feed the kids and chill for a while if you want to. Thank you for letting us spend Thanksgiving together. If I don't see you, have a great weekend and give the kids big hugs and kisses because I'll be missing them.
And you.
Love R"
I went to kiss D11 goodbye, then went and patted D7's booty and whispered goodbye, because I couldn't get to her head. Then I touched the wifes thigh through the blanket and whispered goodbye to her, too.
No one stirred at all. They were out like lights.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
