Thanks for your comments yenko69 and marriedCrazy, was thinking to myself, her side of the family is just her dad, she has one uncle but we have never seen him, so its just her dad and her.
Thanksgiving and Christmas on her side of the family thus consist of W, her dad, and several of her dads close friends that I have grown to know and were basically W's extended family. These friends are also the godparents of the twins.
W respects these people and hasn't introduced OM into the picture yet. My hope is that we can keep the holidays with her side of the family; Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve netural ground (no OM or someday no OW for me)
My side of the family, mom has Thanksgiving the day after (today) and Christmas day at her house is at noon. So everyone has time to do Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve with their other relatives, also everyone has time Christmas morning with their kids and time for church before meeting up at her house.
W thus has Thanksgiving night (we eat early on her side) and Christmas day (after the kids open presents) to be with her OM.
I don't think W has introduce OM to the kids yet either because I would have heard about him by now from the kids.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.65
