I am swimming in Soap Suds!

[kelaaron]

Hope, I'm so sorry. I guess that is what I thought it was to begin with. Why today? I just don't understand these men.

MT-missed the Furby thing ealier. We had 3 of them and they never shut up even when I put them in the drawer. Wish now I had taken out the batteries. LOL. I'm glad I can make someone smile. Mine has come back tonight.

[MT35]

Oh Hope, I am so sorry. This week is just awful. I hate it. I really just want to go hide somewhere, and not come back. Guess H was busy last night. When he left he asked if he could call me. He didn't. That pretty much tells me where he is staying at. Guess he can't go outside and call me like he did when he was here.

Hope, did all of this have to do with the calls to the number now?

I know you were strong yesterday, and made it through with grace. I am thinking of you Hope, and you are in my prayers.

[MT35]

H asked me if I knew where the laundry bag was he had? I didn't. He said it would be handy. H carries all of his stuff with him everyday in the truck. Seems weird that he doesn't just leave his stuff there at OW's.

I just don't know how to act when I am around him. Do I ask him any questions? Or is that R talk?

[kelaaron]

MT-he is staying where ever he lands I bet. Which is a really good thing in terms of his choice. If it wasn't so cold, I would bet he has been sleeping in truck. I think this says he really doesn't know what he wants, or he definately doesn't want her.

Hope you have a good day.

[1hope]

Good morning sunshine. I made it thru the night and am drinking coffee now. H is out walking the fence row, maybe looking for deer but I think to clear his head and have a chew. Sort of wish like he would just keep walking...right off the end of the world. I will update you all on my thread when I can get the time to type it all out, but to answer your question, it had to do with the other phone calls because we were fighting about them and something that he said...that these calls were nothing, just calls to someone that he could talk to, nothing for me to worry about, the OW was a fling, and 10 times more serious than this because this was just someone that he talked to a few times. I picked up on the "fling" word, and he spilled his guts. OMG. Even through all of the pain I thought "so this is what the whole thing is about." This is the root of his pain. It was like having a splinter that was burried deep, causing infection. Healed over on the top, but throbbing and angry underneath. We ripped the splinter out yesterday and now the infection is flowing out.

I knew it, I just knew it. I didn't want to believe it. I am sick.

[1hope]

MT, I don't know. I guess I would try to ask him questions about why he is doing that right now. He probably doesn't even know himself. I think I would just be kind to silent, thinking about things. I don't think he is going to have any logical answers for you because nothing he is choosing to do makes any logical sense.

Just be you, breath, bake and decorate. Shop, meet friends, sleep, cry, breath, talk to your family, breath, pray and give your dogs lots of hugs. He has to process this stuff on his own. Don't try to help him. Remember your boundary. Read the book Tough Love. Keep DB'ing and keep your door open. If/when he pulls his head out of his a$$ and clears the sh!t our of his eyes he will walk back thru your door. He then will be ready for the R talks.

[kelaaron]

MT-as usual, I second Hope. I was going to actually suggest that giving it a little more time is a good thing cuz he will eventually talk to you about it. Geeze........

[MT35]

Thanks Kel and Hope-

Good morning! You and Kel with your coffee! I love the smell, but don't like the taste! Thanks for your words, they do make me feel better. I think I know he doesn't have any idea what he is doing. It is just so hard. I know that you understand. The poor dogs too, about 9:00 last night the boxer was just crying, he used to do it when H wasn't home at 4:00 if he was working late or something. He knows he should be home and he isn't and he misses him. He has been sleeping on the bed the last 3 nights H has been gone. It is funny cause he had been out on the couch, but is with me now in the bed, which is nice.

I hope you guys have a good day today. Not as nice today, we are supposed to get rain, and only a high of 50. Yesterday was so nice! I guess better to do homework!! Need to run get some detergent for the dishwasher! LOL.

Love you guys!

[MT35]

Hope, Guess your H doesn't know that talking about "things" is how those affairs start does he???? LOL. Just made me think of my sitch, talking got my H in to trouble, and your H too.

[kelaaron]

That is usually how it starts. It is actually kinda easy to understand when you think about it. Wow, just watching the news, poor India. Anyway, hell I am speechless right now. What is wrong with ME???????????