The one thing that I told H last night was that I felt so bad about the OW's H. Everyone thought he was such a nut case, was acting so crazy, but it was because he knew the truth about what had been going on, and the rest of us refused to believe. I bought H's lies, I had doubts, but I believed in him.
He has apologized, more than once. He has held me and cried. He has told me that we will spend this next year trying to heal our marriage and us, and that he will be there for all of the support and love that I need. He said that all of this happened last February, and that he has been eaten up with guilt. Guess I can see that's true.
Ok, so the first thing that I did when I woke up this morning, whether it was right or not, I emailed the OW's H and told him that my H (his X best friend) had finally told me the truth about his relationship with her, and it was sexual. I told him that I was sorry and that I was ready to meet for lunch like he had wanted me to do 6 months ago. He knows how to get in touch with me if he wants.
I feel so badly for this guy. I now know why he was feeling so horrible, he new what the truth was, as did his W and my H. All of the rest of us bought into their lies and condemed the poor man. I don't want to rekindle any friendship with him, or compare stories or validate facts. I do want him to know that I believe in him, that he is a good man and I am truly sorry that this happened to us. He also has to know that our families will never again be friends.
We'll see where that takes us. It's closure to me.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
