hey bud i need you, please stop me from going to jail. THEY have a child together...........years of lies..........ow has given him his dream, his own son. not just a step son. tom this hurts!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Been out all day. Good work on making notes and trying to be unavailable on weekend nights. Maybe your W is coming around? At the least she is showing some sort of change. See if it works, and if it doesn't... back to the drawing board. You mentioned money and that is what is got me scratching my head. I actually have more discretionary income since I left than I did when I was home? I guess gas falling to $1.65 a gallon has helped.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
thanks for your post on my thread... always good thoughts...
You guys make me laugh.. I've been behind on catching up this week... just wanted to pop in and say I'm thinking of you... glad you have extra $$$ and christmas might not be too shabby after all....
check in over the weekend
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
hey i got your message, thank you!! more than anything thanks for being my friend, i am blessed you thought of me, sucks you and others did, before the douchebag who left me after the worlds suckiest bomb lol! hugs and love my dear friend!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Been out all day. Good work on making notes and trying to be unavailable on weekend nights. Maybe your W is coming around? At the least she is showing some sort of change. See if it works, and if it doesn't... back to the drawing board. You mentioned money and that is what is got me scratching my head. I actually have more discretionary income since I left than I did when I was home? I guess gas falling to $1.65 a gallon has helped.
LE, yeah I figured that gas prices dropping and the fact that I'm not covering for her expenses anymore has combined to make my discretionary income go up as well.
She's broke this morning and was hinting around, like she wanted me to offer her money. I didn't take the bait.
Hey (((Tawnya))), been quiet because 2 reasons. 1. Nothing much going on until; 2. Wife decided to stay at the house last night.
There wasn't much really to say about the sitch; she slept on the couch. I stayed in the bedroom last night and broke out my laptop for the first time in a while. I had a scare on Monday afternoon. I had left my Windows PC up from Sunday night where I had been chatting late into the night11. But I finished my convo on my Mac (they're the best) and evidently went to sleep without closing down the windows machine. The W had been home and she usually uses the computer; so I freaked when I came home and woke up the machine and saw this website open with me logged in. But she's not one to keep stuff inside and she hasn't even mentioned it; so I think I'm OK. I checked the history on her login yesterday and she's not visited the site. So while she was here she probably slept and then got ready for work. Whew!!
Last night was uneventful, we talked about inane stuff, kittens, Christmas, football. You would never know that there was problems when we're together. I left the house for a while as S had a playdate. I stayed away the whole time; went out to a local bar/grill for dinner. then I came back with the S. She asked if I had met up with her Stpfather; I said no and gave her no further information. But I had an added bonus in that my phone was going off like crazy with texts. She made a comment that "they're blowing you up." I just smiled. Hey she wanted me to have that in my life; I'm making it happen.
This morning we talked a little and I told her that if she was just going to leave her rings in the bathroom that I was going to put them away for safe-keeping. She said OK; just don't sell them. I told her, no way. We both mentioned that we wanted to save the diamond for our D.
She proceed to tell me that she was going to use her dysfunctional BFF for a psychology project and not use her name. I asked if she asked BFF for permission to do this and she said yes. What was funny was that the W then said that BFF would probably like for her name to be used cause she likes to be the center of attention. they are made for each other. So I asked what will be the thesis of her project. I guess W thinks that BFF is bi-polar and narcisstic. She mentioned that she will try to diagnose and prescribe treatment. I asked her what kind of treatment do you think she needs. She said that she had to research it; I told her that she would need cognitive behavior modification therapy. W asked where I got my P.h.D; I told her that I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night. Not going to tell her that I've researched the W's mental condition and learned quite a bit.
Had IC yesterday and I'm doing OK; still working on removing the crazy chick magnet from my forehead. I've really been working on why I'm always involved with those types. Have been since H.S.
I'm just going to be glad to get away. I'm at the point where I realize that I'm not completely detached when she's here. I definitely cannot drink around her; I'll be easy prey for her then. 'Cause I really had to fight off the attraction last night and this morning. I don't dare tell her that either; it'll give her too much power in this weird M. I don't really think about it when she's gone; but everything starts coming back incrementally when she's around me. that's why I need to keep distance and disappear when she's here.
That's all folks. Leaving this afternoon for Thanksgiving. If I don't talk to any of y'all before I leave; Happy Thanksgiving and I'll be back Friday.
{{{Tom}}} Sounds like you had an interesting night and glad you see where you need to be careful and where you are strong..that is power right there my friend!
I laughed at the thought of a guy walking around with a post it on his forehead that says "crazy chick magnet"..LOL..I'm sure you are doing a good job and the great thing about post it notes is that they don't stick very well for long
Hope you have a wonderfully blessed and peaceful Thanksgiving!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Have a great Thanksgiving, MC! I admire your attitude - and can totally relate to the crazy chick magnet - I just had a friend say that to me, verbatim, a couple nights ago. We were talking about my W and previous relationships (we've been friends since high school, and so he knows of them all) - and he calmly leaned forward and said, "my friend, it's time to get the crazy chick magnet off your forehead." And then he flicked me in the head...
Wise to keep your distance when she's there...just keep giving her space and mystery - and keep working on you.
