Bear -
I am finally getting around to reading a book many people have mentioned before - Why Men Love Bitches. Seems to me it might be a good read for you right now.

Have FUN moving into your new place. Take anything you think you might need. Don't forget how much it costs to replace things like spices, mixing bowls, lamps, etc etc. Take your share! Let HIM go buy new frying pans.

Ellie