I'm taking my time, working on the best solution, and considering all my options. Finding a way to remove myself more from her seems key - so if we can eliminate having to see one another every day during the week that would be wonderful...it would be easy if she just let me keep our son for the night - as I could then pick him up and drop him off at daycare - and she could do the same - and we could avoid each other almost entirely.
I'll take out the mention of snipping or yelling...I put those in there with the thought that it be best to be honest with her in ways that she's not honest with me...though I suppose that's trying to offer a rational response to an irrational situation...I'm going to try to nail some more jello to the wall now.