Hi Dudess, Thanks so much for your concern...I worry a lot about her mindset too and plan on talking with a lawyer about it ASAP. That's a great suggestion that I contact someone to oversee our exchanges - as having someone there would certainly help protect me from her accusations.
A public place would also make a lot of sense - I live in a house - so she just pulls into the driveway until I come out with our son. She won't come to the door anymore - as she believes that it stresses our baby out to have her get him from inside the house...I think it has more to do with the fact that when she comes to the door he often runs away from her saying, no mommy, no mommy, stay papi...and hearing that is very hard for her. Of course, his saying that isn't about her - it's just that he likes to be settled into the home sometimes.
I'm still thinking of a way to bring up the DV accusation - and not react to it or seem like I'm defending myself...I will have to talk with a professional to see what would be best for me legally.
This is easily the most frustrating and frightening experience of my life...I just don't know what to make of her accusations when they come - so I just take a deep breath, focus on my son, and then step away...
Here's something I'm thinking of sending her:
"Hi, I'm concerned about your threats to call the police and your comments about the history of violence in our relationship. I haven't made any threats against you or our son, and when you threaten to call the police I worry about my future and the future of my children. In order to make both of us more comfortable, I am looking into exchange services that might make our nightly exchanges smoother and less dramatic for all of us. We could also try a public place or have someone else there as a witness."
