Interestint that I get a text from H at the exact moment his mom calls on the house phone. They must have spoken prior. (I haven't heard for MIL/FIL since end of Sept.)
Predictably, I guess H says:
H:thanks for the invite,I'm not gonna make it. Happy Thanksgiving.
I replied: bummmer...
Then I replied again: the kids are bummed you can't come over...k
I had to imply that the invite was not all about me. Not sure why...I hope it is better I acknowledged his decline rather than just ignore it. I'm not mad at H at all....I'm just sick in my stomach that he/we have to deal with such destructive things.
Did his L tell him about the call from my L? Is he too uncomfortable, mad, depressed? Is he trying to hurt me?
All of the above.
So much for his plan to be divorced and be friends...duh!!
The kids are actually mad at him, they are so tired of the their dad having so many problems.
The kids are much more upset about this than I am...they have gotten used to him being around since September...and of course, they don't know anything about the papers.
Turkey is in the oven and smells good. I have to work through this for an hour or so....it truly his my H's loss.
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
