Is this worth saving, or am I only fooling myself?

[Dash]

I suppose my DB days are over. Not that I did it very well.

I found out that the OM had actually spent three weeks with her, from October 26 until mid November. He was shuffled off to the SIL's place on Saturdays when I was there.

I logged into the game where my wife met her new "friends" yesterday and actually spoke to a couple of them. This is how I found out about him being there. A couple of the people I talked to now hate her and she hates me for talking to them. Her "BFF" in the game told me having virtual sex wasn't cheating. When I explained to him how she had been downloading the game every day then deleting it and thus having a secret life unknown to me, he changed his tune very quickly. He told me the idea was to never let "Second Life" cross over into real life, and once it did the person had crossed a boundary that he believed should never be crossed.

It's almost liberating in a way. I fought the only way I knew how, but my line was them meeting face to face. Even after I told her I knew about him being there for a "week", she denied it. When she finally came "clean" about it, she admitted to him being there for a week. That's when I told her I knew it had been three. One of her "friends" forwarded several emails to me about him being there that my W had written to her. This same "friend" told me that there had been far more than three online flings. In fact W at one point apparently had four going on at the same time.

I think the kicker was her having the nerve to tell me they didn't have sex while he was there. Classic. I know her sexual appetite, and there's no way I believe he flew all the way from Holland without getting something in return besides just her "good company".

I also spoke with the OM, Kat you were 100% correct, he didn't care. I even sent him emails that she had sent me in September telling me how much she loved me and all that garbage. He said "Perhaps it was to keep you in the dark." DUH!! No sh*t Sherlock, what do you think I've been trying to tell you???

I could write much more, but frankly I'm tired of it. I don't understand what happens to people to make them such passive aggressive, narcissistic, sociopaths. She's a compulsive liar and always the victim. She had the nerve to tell me that I was manipulative. Among some other not so nice things.

The funniest thing to me in all of this is how she talks about her parents being passive aggressive, yet she can't see the patterns in her own life. Always the victim. It's always me. The OM had the nerve to tell me that if I had only given her some attention over the last two and half years that we wouldn't be in this position. He really has no clue what he's in for.

Thanks everyone for you help along the way. I'm sorry I didn't always follow the good advice I was given, but honestly I don't know that it would have made a bit of difference if I had.

Take care and good luck in your own situations. As the Rascal Flatts song says, "I'm moving on..."

Dash