thx again everyone! Bday was....interesting. Mil and Ws grandma brought me some homemade lasagna!! W called on her way home to say she was bringing me some wine. Ate dinner with W and the girls...me and W had some wine and were chatting about regular stuff. W then asked me the strangest thing....she asked me to stop "loving her" and how could I love her if she doesn't love me. I never say ily to her....I don't write her letters that say it....she must just "feel it"? She started to talk about how I am not dealing with my anger properly... I told her it was none of her concern...she mentioned how we don't need to see the MC together anymore...her IC says it counter productive. I got up to walk outside....she followed me..she was talking but I was not. Went inside...this part was my fault but I can't let everything just go....I brought up her Monday night comments about " change"....and the fact I don't really have anything to be angry about rite now. Went to my room....she came up a bit after....started about other stuff...I had nothing to say. When it was all over...I watched a little TV...and went to sleep...none of it really fazed me.
Yesterday I was working and thought of something I pray for strength and patience and for God to help soften my wifes heart. A few things that are Gods hand at work rite now? 1 W has no $ left with her A 2 MC asked me to stall on legal stuff 3 My A is real busy with other stuff rite now Food for thought....
Had pizza last night. We actually watched TV in the same room....she said goodnight to me when she went to her cave..she was not feeling well.
Have a good turkey day everyone !!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Unbelievable. "Wife, please don't lecture me on how to 'appropriately' deal with a challenge in my life. What, you would rather I rant and rave, or go and have an affair myself??"
Kinda made me chuckle inside!! W left her phone out....I snoop...some of the txts they send are so childish....they both act like kids...while good ok carp gets to do the "adult" things with W.....
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
W got home sat morning at 7am from nite out with friends...of course I was up...I said nothing but "hello". I asked if she was going to MC with me...she said no. I have got "loving detachment" down pat....no harsh tones in my voice...no bad body language. Honestly I really didn't even "feel" bad when I saw her. About 8am I poked my head in her cave to say I was leaving to run some "errands" and go to MC solo at 10am. Recounted my weeks interactions with W...our Tuesday fight on my bday...the fact that she calls me alot to talk about little things....how W was concerned what I would do for thxgiving dinner....the childish text messages between W and OM...how W asked if I wanted glass of wine on Thursday...and then brought it to me on the couch. MC asked me again to not "push" things, legal or otherwise. Got home around 11:30...chatted with W a bit...we heated up leftover turkey and stuff for lunch and talked "normal" for about an hour. I went out around 4:30 to hang with family (FB friends can see the pics) got home around 11:30 because I had to work Sunday. Sunday
W calls me around 11:00am to see what time I will be off and discuss dinner plans. I tell her between 3&4...I get home...hit the shower...and we eat as a family. After dinner W and I work on some stuff for D12s murder mystery Bday party then decide to tackle some laundry folding and watch a movie...
Ws BFF and her sister were back in town off and on since Wednesday night again...she had commented to me the Ws "normal" actions and the wine thing were "wierd"...I just said yup. She told me W did NOT want to go out sat night...even though the kids were gone...because of what I would say about it...she was also worried I would drop the "bomb" on her about coming home at 7 on Saturday.
Monday
W emails me about her plans for the night....IC for her from 6 to 7...then a movie with her uncle after that. About 7:30 she sends me a picture of her uncle!! She is worried I don't "trust" her....duh!!! No biggie really...she was with him.... I have been treating my W like a "sister" lately.... That's it up until today....what do ya all think....gimmie some good input or questions....kinda bored today...
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Why are you enabling her to stay out all night without any repercussions? Whatever you decide to do, is this the way you want to live until things are finalized?
That's incredibly disrespectful, and a horrible example for your children. Personally, I'd tell her the next time she's out past, say, 1am, to not bother coming home, and I'd turn all the lights out, put the alarm system on, and even change the locks.
