Never posted to you but have been following your story. Puppy is right about not sending the email but IF you do, I would say instead of - I believe I should have some input into the evaluations - I WILL have input into the evaluations....
And instead of - I think it would be nice if you could return the favor. I EXPECT you to return the favor...
Stay strong and have a Happy Thanksgiving despite him!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I decided I won't send the angry email to H. I've had a WONDERFUL day so far today! Some of the people from the church and I volunteered and did some prep work at the church and served over 250 people Thanksgiving lunch at a local place they have in town. The people were so polite and wonderful. I was giving out the potato salad at one point, and people that didn't want it would be apologizing, I'm so sorry I don't want any potato salad! I was don't worry no problem! They were all so grateful and everything and really had the spirit of the holiday. It was a wonderful way to spend the day.
I'm going over to the Pastor's house at 5 and they are having some other friends over and everything. It should be fun also. They're really nice people. Anybody I didn't know, I got to meet today too, so it was really great to do that.
I just called the kids when I got home. That was weird b/c I've always been with them on every holiday before. Hnswered and I just asked for D9 although nicely. I should have said Happy Thanksgiving maybe but won't worry about it. S15 sounds like he's 20 on the phone, weird. I've had a great day but I do wish I had the kids around to hug. But I'm going to get Christmas Day with them and that's even more important prob.
I just called the kids when I got home. That was weird b/c I've always been with them on every holiday before.
I hear you! All of these first holidays without our babies sure suck!!! It sounds like you made the best of it, though and didn't wallow in being without them. Good for you!
Originally Posted By: karen43
I'm going to get Christmas Day with them and that's even more important prob.
Me too.. We must be on the same schedule with holidays. Honestly, I think D5 should always be with me on the "important" holidays. He can have her on Columbus day or something..
Happy Thanksgiving to you. I am happy you are having a great day.
I had to work and W took the girls to SIL's. So I did not see them. I called and talked with D11 this morning. You guys are pretty lucky, I also have to work on Christmas day. I am hoping we are slow and can spend some time with the girls.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
You guys are pretty lucky, I also have to work on Christmas day. I am hoping we are slow and can spend some time with the girls.
What kind of crazy people commit crime on Christmas Day??? That's horrible!!! That does remind me my dad was hit by a drunk driver on Christmas Day, and our smoked turkey was in the back seat. My dad was ok though and the turkey too!!!
I had one of my best Thanksgiving days ever probably which is probably awful b/c I should be in mourning for my kids. Just had a blast at the Pastor's (do many people say that?). They are my age and so was another couple there, another couple was a little bit older, but everyone was so funny we laughed and joked and ate for 4 hours. I am never going to eat again!!! This is kind of how the evening went: One of the other guests said, "Come over any time and see my wife's ass". This b/c his wife has a miniature donkey. Then the pastor's wife says, "And I've seen it, and she's got a great ass too!".
The pastor is talking about making the Thanksgiving thing an annual event. I think we all really enjoyed it more than any of the people that went there to eat! They said there were only 75 people there last year, and over 250 today so I think it was a success! Hope you're all having a great day too! Karen
Just spent the last 2 hours with my L. She came to the house to check it out, stripped paint off the porch, poor neglected old house. Then I went to her office and talked about the kids' evaluations H wants. I knew it! Since H waited until Wed. night at 6:30 and he said my L agreed to it, I knew he was full of crap. He's such a liar. She had said "that might be a good idea" but would have to discuss with me before she agreed to it which she hadn't. She said the place will have to have both parents signatures of consent for the eval, and I am going to call Monday and ask some ?s to see if it will be ok or not. Questions like: do they recommend special-needs children in the public schools and mainstreaming (which they do here instead of special ed), etc. If the answer is yes, then I'm going to tell the Director that I do not give my consent, and the L says he will have to set a hearing in front of the Judge to resolve it. The evaluations for the kids btw are $1200 and H has said he doesn't have the money to fix the heater, but he can pay to do that. I said to the L yes, b/c his goal is to get the kids in ps and me working full-time so he can save money. Anything to save him money so he can spend more $ on vacations with the OW he's willing to do!!! It's just so obvious to me that he is 100% motivated by $ rather than the kids' best interest, and the L was saying that too. And I hope they don't let him get away with that. Karen
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