I screwed up again

[AnotherNightmare]

GL,

Thank you for your encouragement and excellent words of wisdom! I guess I get the theory, and now it comes down to "practice, practice, practice", something I should know how to do.

The good news today: my W called on her own account to check in on me and the kids (at least that is what she said). I am really upbeat today about this. I asked her about her mother and her aunt (showing my genuine interest - no "acting as if" necessary here) and told her that I am glad she went to spend some of the last hours of her aunt's life at her side and I could only imagine how important it would be for her to be with her mom at this difficult time. She did not say anything, but she sounded like she truly appreciated me saying that.

I think all this would be a lot easier if there was not OM. But I know I need to stop thinking that I could impact the EA directly. I need to focus on what I can do and that will eventually impact what she does and feels.

Thanks again for opening my eyes!

AN