Thanks, that makes a lot of sense. I like the fishing analogy. When I was a little girl, I used to go fishing with my grandpa. I was never very good at it. I think I was too little and really just playing around. But thanks for sparking that memory.
Also, thanks for the insight. I just got back from my run (penalty for getting mopey)and now that the pity-party has broken up for the time being, what you say makes sense. This is a long project and I have to keep the endgame in sight. Better some minor retreating from H now than permanent retreating in the end because I come across as sad, pathetic and needy.
I know I must stay strong in the face of his unhappiness and fear. That is what makes me attractive to him - it's probably why he is retreating. Like you said, who wants to look bad in front of someone they care about, particularly when the other person looks good.
My brother called me from Chicago to see how I am doing and wish me happy T-day. I said I was struggling with whether to call H today to say happy T-day. What if H feels abandoned? My brother very kindly but very firmly reminded me that H left me and if he feels abandoned he'll have to address that himself. Made me feel much better.
So, thanks again Techguy! How's the cooking going?
