Results of the boundary letter I wrote....

[mcojh]

Mo4-
I haven't posted to you before, but that won't stop me from giving you my 2 cents.

First, I need to tell you that I think the concept of a "fog" is a lot of crap. I also have trouble with a lot of the self diagnosis of MLC. It is a rationalization for poor behavior. Call it what it is. He is deep into self centered, destructive behavior. It is all about him. Forgive my bluntness, but he is too selfish to see the impact he is having. Do you really want a friend who treats you this way? I have to think you can find friends who don't.

My advice to you is too look into yourself and decide what you want. If you want him as a "friend" great. If you want to try to save and improve your M, then my advice would be to go dark. Don't ask him for help, don't ask him for anything. Be strong. If you need help with something, go elsewhere (family,friends).

A wise and knowledgable DBer once told me that the most important thing to do is to quit worrying about what my xW was doing, thinking and take care of myself. I still have trouble with this time to time, but it is getting better.