Not exactly what I was hoping for. I gave it to him Monday evening, he read it and then promptly left the house for about an hour. I asked him about it this morning and he said I talked "down" to him in the letter. I asked him what part of it felt like that and he just said the words I used. I just can't win. He said that he definitely was not going to make his phone and/or cell phone bill available to me because he paid the bills and I just used that info against him! I asked him if he just found me gross and he said no; that he just doesn't want to be around me. And then, he asks me what I want to do after we have dinner with his mom. Do I want to just drive around and try to find businesses that are open? WTH, didn't he just tell me that he doesn't want to be around me?! I just don't get it. He said he moved back home because he missed being in our family, but he's still not "in" our family (which he agreed to). He doesn't want to work on our marriage, but has agreed to a separation instead of a divorce. He said he would move in with his mom by this weekend. I guess we'll see if he really goes there or back with OW. He says he will always be my friend and that if I ever needed anything, all I have to do is ask. Whatever, we can be civil for the sake of the kids but I cannot be his "friend"! As long as we aren't talking about us or our marriage, he talks to me cordially and friendly and that just drives me nuts!
If I understand the fog correctly, it still appears that he is deeeeeeeeep in a fog. And I am not handling it well at all.
