IMO if your H was done he would not have bothered with his time to come to your side and console you in your time of pain.
IMO your H does not have the relationship with OW that he has and IMO still wants with you.
IMO your H reacts out of his own pain and anger over what has happened between the two of you when he treats you cold and speaks of a permanent break-up.
IMO any contact with the other man and his wife would be wrong. Let it stay in the past and be done with it. It will not fix the problem between you and H and it will hurt the OM's wife. She doesn't deserve that. Leave it be.
You need to keep working on GAL and PMA. Let your H keep seeing you in a positive light and please continue patience for him, this takes a lot of time. Your H still has feelings for you, you need to nurture them with tenderness and consistency. Do not do anything negative right now, it will be many steps in the worng direction. When we take 2 steps forward it is good, for some reason that is always followed by ten steps backwards and it is a long road to regain the twelve steps back to the good, do I make sense?
I think you have not lost H, keep the faith my friend....
This won't be easy, we all have told you this....stay on course and try not to backslide....pause before you react and breathe. I have told you before your H is watching you very carefully. Give him a sight he will enjoy and want.
Your H is confused, help him straighten out his confusion by being a vision he wants to come home to.
Please take good care of yourself,
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
