Onward and Upward - Part 8!

[Maya44]

Yea, I doubt I'm seeing H. I hope both of you have great turkey days with H and the kids!

[MidwesternGirl]

FG:

Who knows--my H could all of a sudden say he does not feel well and not show up. That's okay, my kids love Thanksgiving dinners so I do not feel bad at all.

[Maya44]

I don't feel too badly either. It gets sad when I see my family together with their spouses, but you never know what goes on behind their closed doors either. I'm such a procrastinator....I JUST ordered the pies for tomorrow! Such wonderful delicious decisions at Bakers Square!

[Upside]

H didn't say what time he would be over on Thanksgiving. I am thinking he is coming, since he hasn't said otherwise, but we just haven't seen h much at all in the past week.

If it makes you feel any better, H said he would see me on Thanksgiving and I asked about what time he would be here since it is a big dinner I am preparing. He said early afternoon but he could not commit to a time.

It sure does seem like the holidays put more pressure on a MLCer. My H said he was going to spend Thanksgiving with me but then started waffling yesterday. He might go to his D's instead. It will be interesting to see what these guys do.

I hope your H shows but even if he doesn't, I hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

[glamgirl]

I am sure my h will show. He was here last year and the year before. I remember the year before, he could hardly sit at the table. He ate and left right away. Looked terrible. I really didn't know what to say to him back then.

Today, my h has come a long long way. Haven't heard from my h today. I did notice I missed a call from him last night, but he didn't leave a message.

I am not going to pressure him as to when is he coming. I will probably have the meal ready around 1 or 2 and call it a day. If he is here great if not he can eat leftovers.

Life goes on with or without him. I am not feeling bad though or getting stressed or angry. Life is what it is!

I think that is how we need to approach it. Harder to say than do, but really what can we do if they don't appreciate the warmth and kindness of our offerings or us as a person. Be kind and loving regardless and love from a distance for now.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving all!

[Truelove]

Hi glamgirl,
Happy Thanksgiving and have a lovely day.

[MidwesternGirl]

GG:

That is exactly how I feel. I left h a text this afternoon just letting him know that we will probably be eating between 2&3. That was all but if he is not here, oh well. He claims he cannot each that much anymore because his stomach is always bothering him.

He has never missed a Thanksgiving or Christmas here at home. This time though, he is more depressed.

[glamgirl]

Thanks True and MWG. I have the pies in the oven. Never heard from my h today.

I have to admit I am feeling a little distance with h this week. Meaning he was sick and then he has hardly contacted us at all. He didn't come over on sat nor did he watch the kids on Mon or wed of this week.

I know that for the most part he was sick, but he could call sometime during the day and say Hey how's it going. It's as if his work comes first. Just bury's himself in his job.

Now he did message on his v-mail yesterday that he misses me, but then call and say hello now and then. I do understand Upside where you are coming from on this in having daily contact with your h. Otherwise it just doesn't feel like they care at times.

Oh well all I can do is turn it over to God at this point. I am going to work out at the gym tomorrow and burn 500 Cal and then eat whatever I want.

Turkey and pumpkin pie bring it on!

[Upside]

Hey there glam-
Good for you for getting to the gym so you feast guilt free tomorrow. I so desperately need to regularly get back to the gym. Last year I was in such great shape...now I seem to find lots of excuses not to get to the gym.

You seem to be handling your H's distancing pretty well. I am sure it won't last long. My H does the same thing when he isn't feeling well...and he seems to be feeling sick much more frequently lately. I wonder if it is stress or maybe an excuse. I know it is about the depression, but when I get depressed, I want to be around people and I want to talk to the people who care about me. I don't get why they want to crawl under a rock.

If you and your spouse are supposably trying to work on your M and you go more than a day without contact, I think it is difficult for the LBS...at least it is for me. At C this week, I brought up that I asked my H about having some kind of daily contact. The C told my H that my request was reasonable and my H seemed to understand. The C talked explained to him that it is about feeling a connection. I don't know if it will change anything or not but I guess it was worth a shot.

Hope your turkey turns out nice and juicy and you have lots of whipped cream for that pumpkin pie. Happy Thanksgiving.

[glamgirl]

Thanks Upside. I made 2 pumpkin pies yesterday and I see one is 3/4 gone. I guess it must be good.

There is a woman at my work that works out at the same gym that I do and we meet up now at 5am 4 days per week. I am loving it. She is a fitness pro and competes so she is into it for the long haul. She keeps me motivated.

No word from h yesterday. I made the assumption he is joining us today, but not sure when. Nor have I reached out to him. Not feeling that right now. Oh well if he doesn't show then life goes on.

I have the yams prepared, the rolls are proofing, the pies are done and I made some delicious cranberry blueberry sauce for the turkey.

After the gym it's prepare the stuffing and the turkey and hopefully eating around 1pm. I really can't wait. I do love to eat, especially my cooking. Not that I am bragging, but I am a good cook. Thank God my mother taught me many years ago when all you did was eat homemade food.

Off to the gym to burn 1/2 of my meal off today and then the morning paper is here so I can view the shopping ads.

I'll check in later!