I'm in a similar deal right now as far as the contact goes. I can't go more than two days without getting call after call and if I don't take them there is hell to pay. I don't know about you, but when I step back, my wife will then do something drastic and rash to get me to react. I've truly never been dark. 3 or 4 days max and she is miffed.
You feel your damned if you do and damned if you don't. It's difficult to limit contact with children too, they will use them as an excuse to call.
I think you should take a few steps back, but do it for you to have some time to cool off and take a much needed break from the insanity. Not to piss her off. If it has that effect and OM does take some heat....BONUS!!!
I make it like a day or two on and a few days off unless something comes up with the kids. I tend to view her crazy crap contagious, the more I'm around it the more I start to come down with it.
Vanish for a few, let the OM take the heat for a while. If your not around maybe he will get a taste of the wrath.
I know you didn't ask but thats my take.
You have a great Thanksgiving. Someday she will wake up and see who she really should be thankful for.
