I think you are doing great and it sounds like you have a good L who understands you and what you want.
Deciding to answer back with a Counterclaim was a stressful time for me too. I couldn't eat or sleep and changed my mind back and forth.
I read and re-read the L's draft, sent it back with corrections, told him to hold off a few more days, then FINALLY gave him the go-ahead.
I felt the greatest sense of relief afterwards! And I know it was the right thing to do.
Of course my H is no longer speaking to me and I WILL NOT initiate contact but guess what - we're still married and are no closer to a D than we were a year ago.
Stay strong and have a Happy Thanksgiving despite him or in spite of him!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
