True, Your h is in mlc, thus, he's a mixed up guy who is seeing the world in tunnel vision. You have to take everything he says w/a grain of salt right now. He feels pressured, i.e., divorce, real estate, etc. It's self imposed pressure and you are not the reason for it.
Give him a wide berth and do not step into his drama! He's really out there and needs to be left alone to stew in his own pot of juices. Do not attempt to rescue him. He's got to hit bottom on his own.
His projections are quite out there and he's trying to project everything on to you. Do not accept them as your own!
Leave him be and do step back from his drama. One thing...try to stop defending yourself and/or explaining to him why you are doing things. Keep your responses friendly, but straight to the point.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
