Mixed Signals or Just My Imagination ?

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you should also apply it to your wife as well as your daughter. not that you should tickle her, but when she does get angry, you need to keep it lighthearted, joke with her, and pull her out of the funk

I think that would have worked much better if she still considered herself in a relationship with me. I wish I had done it more. Sometimes I just did not have the patience for her pouting.

Re: physical touch, yes, it is one of her love languages, as well as gifts. I have to be really careful right now. Sometimes (like on Halloween) she clearly wants an affectionate hug. At others, she will hug me, but it is as if she is hugging a street person who might not be sanitary.

...if it was bad, a healthy person would try to seek the opposite, but an unhealthy person would still search for the abuse.

I don't think she is happy with abuse, but she doesn't know how to be in a healthy relationship, or what one needs to do to maintain a healthy relationship. I do think she has serious self-esteem issues and has a very inadequate relational skill set.

I really do think she can't do her part in a R, and she was lucky with me in that I did not cheat on her or treat her abusivly. I believe she won't be as lucky the next time around.

Thanks for posting your thoughts.