I can only think about how much this stings. What a pissy thing to get from the woman you love the day before Thanksgiving. It's a low blow.
And I wouldn't be answering the phone either, to be quite honest with you.
The question will be, what will you do with this development?
You are a man who still loves the woman who divorced him. She is a woman who seems very reluctant to let you go, and yet still feels the need to have OM to fill her empty hours.
I have no doubt that you are many times over the man that he is. Further, it would completely shock me if your wife had ANY future intentions with this man, based upon things you've shared here.
And yet...
My instincts say that it is time to stop being so available and helpful to her. I could certainly be wrong, perhaps because of commiserating with you, but it seems to me that there is more than a little bit of cake eating going on here.
And I warn you that this could simply be my dumb ass man talking...
I think if this man can fill her days without the children, if he can be her entertainment for the holidays, rather than other family or spending it alone, then I think perhaps I would be inclined to let him fill some other roles for a bit as well.
It sounds petty I know, and perhaps it is. The trick here is to be sure that in yourself you are not trying to punish her, or get back at her in some way. The motivation here is to allow her to have a bit more of the life that she has chosen. And, in some small way, put her in the position of comparing what OM brings to the table with what you bring to the table.
Sorry for such crappy news.
I wish you and your children a blessed Thanksgiving day.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
