ok, so had a few beers with oldest mate tonight. it's 11.30 uk time so notthat late and a little merry.
so, tonights interactions with STBX. She picked me up from work at 3.45 as usual as I've not got new car yet (hopefully tomorrow or Friday) and is off as soon as I get in. Have you seen sols yet. yes, a new one, I'll be drawing up a new mediation agreement and send it to him to read, ask if he thinks you should see first to talk to your sols so mediation isn't a waste of time with your ridiculous demands. STBX - I spoke to sols before other mediation, but you know now you wont get £20k now. me - Yes, Stbx - I'm keeping the house you know that. Me - Yes, sort of, if we can find somewhere similar that is no less than 3 beds, no further fromwhere it is or S6 school and for £40k less, no you will keep it. So she is basically looking for an argument. Next was when you getting car ? have you not chased them. Me - Well, no, it's due any day but I'll not be chasing a good friend re a car when there have bad cancer, you might, but I won't. Stbx - goes quiet on the last comment....So will you have car by Sat as I need it. Me - Hopefully, if not, don't worry you can pick me and boys up at 10.30 for school fete instead of meeting us there. Stbx - So, your not having the boys til 10.30 ?. Me - well, yes, but if no car, I'll just have to get them and they can walk 10 mins then you can pick us up for fete if you that bothered. stbx - So don't you want this all done ASAP. Me - Well yes, but nothing we can do, new sols thinks it will tke time whatever and what is like a month or 2 ? we are where were at and nothing can really change the speed of things. I'd rather have it all straight before next mediation and you to discuss with yours first so we don't waste another session with you ridiculous demands of 75% of house value on whenever we sort. i can't beleive your sols told you that you'd get that as mine says no way. stbx - No, but she said i'd get more than 50% and 75% is more than that. I laughed, yeah, just slightly more then, but it will be nearer 50% than 75%, but i'll talk about it as per my sols intruction.
So we get more or les to her house (my home) and i'm like, look, what more do you want. you are getting everything, the house, kids, me out of your life so why you still want o be nasty, angry to me, there is no need. Stbx - nothing. then as she gets out, so when you having boys over night, so I shut the door, laughing saying, no, no, were not going there again, pointless conversation I'll see you later.
At some point I also suggest that 1 Sunday, would she like us to do the xmas shopping together and she is like, well, how's that going to happen, we should just say what were getting them and go 50/50. I'm like, we can but think it would be nicer and easier if we just spent 2 hours together, went and got it all or something, i'll sort out boys, if not we can do as you suggest. She was ok with that and I just feel it would be in the boys interest and ensures what we get them is equal from both of us. So I need to sort that.
I'm not sure I've given that exactly as it happened (goldfish brain that I am), but it was very much pain from her as I saw it where as I was trying to keep it business. not sure she liked that and she certainly doesn't like the way I am as if. Thing is, it's no longer faked, makes it easier and i'm sure she is in more pain personally than I am. Not gloating but it does make you feel better. She will never show remorse or anything as to stubborn but when you know someone that well you just know.
Nice evening all in all, boys, that brief time with stbx not getting to me and then few beers with best oldest mate.
