Just as our WAS's made us seek out to make ourselves happy on our own, Dan needs to be compelled to do the same. If BobbiJo becomes the WAW by using tough love and not making it appear that Dan can just easily say a few things and come back, then Dan may truely be faced with the concept of wanting his marriage. She will then need to be convinced that Dan can make himself happy on his own (without another woman) before she can consider trying again.
I find the Buffalo is a bit lean and does not have the taste of the beef with marbled fatty meat. I have heard that Elk is great and that Pronghorn is even better. I grew up eating venison and did not think it all that great. Peking Duck is fabulous. Goose seems too have too much grease.
I would try pronghorn if you cooked it, Woog. But I am never gonna eat duck or ostrich or buffalo. Don't like the taste of buffalo, only like deer in jerky form....
Don't know what is up w/H. Still think it was a strange call he made, I guess he just wanted to call and say....nothing. Weird
Oh well, gotta make supper for the kids. I keep thinking I can't do this being separated thing, but I have been doing it, really. Everything I did today and most days was just me and the kids....I guess it is the part where we make it "official" and other people know that has me worried...
The offical part still throws me too BBJ. Even telling people is a bit surreal. I'm told that goes away in time.
But, my sweet sis, your story isn't over. Not by a long shot. I know Dan has a very long way to go to fix the stuff wrong with him and I'm his biggest critic (a common friend used to pick on me about that), but I do know he still loves you. I am sure of that. But, he is broken. And only he can fix what's broken.
BBJ, just so you know, tomorrow when I'm considering the things I'm thankful for... your friendship is high on that list.
Got your Thanksgiving wishes and am steering some in your direction.
"Project Dan" goes on without fail. How are you doing with your daily devotional?
I am in the process of thinking of a new thread title which more than likely will land in "piecing". Things are currently as good as they have been between my darling and me for quite some time. We seem to be connecting on new levels. I think the title should have the words --mending, bridging (and for some reason I can't get the biblical ref of "fisher's of men" out of my mind ..guess the Lord has it there for a reason).
Be careful on your journey. Don't over-react. Get in line with the Lord's plan and only His plan. The love between you and H surely is real (as you know) in both directions. Make sure you are continuously nurturing it in various ways direct and in-direct. You have every right to be angry and dismayed for the constant state of utter confusion that he is in. Turn that troubling stuff over to our magnificent Lord as if receiving redemption for recyclables. Rise above the garbage that unfortunately H is struggling so mightily to shed off himself. His conscience is very active it seems to me. I expect it will truly cause him to collapse and he will be ground to a screeching halt. You, my dear must just be you. You are terrific. Live to please the Lord. He should always be your first and primary 'husband'. Strive for unconditional love. Stay in motion and smile as it pleases the Lord to see you with a beautiful smile on your face.
