Karen a Happy Thanksgiving and keep yourself busy. I'll check in on you when I get back.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Happy Thanksgiving, Karen!! I just wanted to stop by and tell you that, and tell you how incredibly PROUD I am of how much you've grown this year. You're an incredible woman, and your kids are SOOOO blessed to have you as their mom.
LWB, that's probably a good way to look at it--I'm giving them the gift of my presence at T-giving! Corey, thanks. Puppy, you are so sweet. That was really good to hear today! Hope y'all have a great Thanksgiving!!!
Spent 2 hours at the L's this am! It seemed kind of pointless to me too, she was going over the expenditures in H's checking account. All stuff in the financial affidavits we already have except for H's restaurants and Starbucks. I've told her I don't go out to eat or restaurants like that several times so seems a waste for me to sit there while she does that. She commented twice on how passive I am and how she hopes my C is helping me be more assertive. I told her I am actually a lot less passive than I used to be!!! And truthfully, I didn't say but was thinking that my L needs counseling more for her aggressive personality than I think I need it! She is not speaking to her daughter (or her D not speaking to her) so she isn't having T-giving with her family, and everyone rolls their eyes when I tell them who my L is.
Then she proceeded to tell me I should be working on a career which I'm not b/c of the kids. And that I may end up a bag lady. She asked me if I'm prepared to be a bag lady. I looked at her and said 100%, my kids are my no. 1 priority, so I'm fine with that. Then a couple minutes later she was saying I want to be a bag lady or something, and I said, no I don't want to be, but if that's what happens b/c my kids are no. 1, I'm ok with that. The L and I are like night and day, just total opposites. I can't wait until the D is over!!!! No more Ls in my life ever!!!! Karen
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving my friend. I can't see you ending up being a bag lady...your L is not so nice even to the people that pay her me thinks! Just keep being the sweet wonderful you and you will be fine. Love ya!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
OK, I am really starting to hate my H. He came to pick up the kids. I had them all ready and their stuff packed and went upstairs to work out (yeah, totally trying to avoid him). H comes up and he did knock on the door, but then came in to tell me he had scheduled the kids for educational evaluations for FSU Tuesday morning. He sent me half a dozen emails this afternoon and said nothing about that.
He came in and gave me a thick sheet of paperwork and forms from the testing center. He tells me at 6:20 pm when the atty is gone for the holidays until Monday. Says he talked to my lawyer (at the depo) and she agreed with the testing at FSU, which I think is a bunch of crap, depos aren't usually like that I don't think. I told him I would have to speak with my L and he said doesn't matter b/c he's going to take there them anyway with or without my consent.
I feel like this is going to be a no-win for me: if it comes out that they are delayed educationally which I contend b/c of their autism/dyslexia he will use that against me to say it's b/c of my homeschooling. If their evaluations come out well, they may say oh public school is fine for them which is just crap. My son attended a small nice private school and it was me doing all the tutoring for him to learn anything.
I hate, hate, hate this guy. No feelings for him left except negative ones. Guess that's good in a way though. I want to email H this but maybe I should wait the 48 hours or whatever. What do you think?: I don't understand why you didn't let me know about the evaluation until 6:20 pm Wednesday when my lawyer is out for the rest of the week for the holiday? (Although really I think it's b/c he's a total ftard of course!!!) I believe I should have some input into the evaluations of the kids and will check with the atty on Monday. These are my children as well. You have always said you want me to inform you about the kids which I have always done, and I think it would be nice if you could return the favor by emailing me with pertinent info re: the kids and as I've told you before I prefer email. (rather than having to see his ugly, creepy face didn't put that in but it's true) Thanks!Karen
Hi Karen, I hate the situation you are in.. sadly similar to the bs that I'm going through. I think you should send an e-mail but edit it tomorrow so that some of the emotion is gone. Of course, you deserve to know about the evaluations.
And, he probably doesn't like to e-mail you because it's "proof" of what a jerk he is being!
Forget the e-mail -- save your breath. Get a hold of your atty and at least confirm that she did, in fact, okay this. in which case, you have something to say to your atty, for not telling YOU. If it's NOT true, you get him to call it off unless he wants it brought out before the family court judge that he's having his kids evaluated without his wife's consent, and lying about her counsel's involvement with it!!!
Forget the e-mail -- save your breath. Get a hold of your atty and at least confirm that she did, in fact, okay this. in which case, you have something to say to your atty, for not telling YOU. If it's NOT true, you get him to call it off unless he wants it brought out before the family court judge that he's having his kids evaluated without his wife's consent, and lying about her counsel's involvement with it!!!
Puppy
Good stuff Puppy! I'm guessing she didn't agree to it or he wouldn't have waited until my L was gone until Monday to give me the paperwork or tell me about it as I would have done for him. He's a lying, sneaky sob and I'm so sick of his crap!!! I called and left a message for my L and told her what he had said: she agreed to it and he set it up for Tuesday and was going to do it with or without my L's and mine consent. Of course she won't get this until Monday am, but hopefully we could at least get it delayed or something. The first hearing is on Wednesday. Karen
Corey, thanks. Puppy, you are so sweet. That was really good to hear today! Hope y'all have a great Thanksgiving!!!