cat, As you know, I can TOTALLY relate to the crap with your stbx wanting to blend families. I think it's bs and horrible for any child to be subjected to the instability of that. Maybe it's because I grew in such a "normal Beaver Cleaver" family, but, d@mn, don't these kids deserve more??
Anyway... since we know that we can't control how stupid these men are. And, we know that our kids actually DO need their Dads... my thought is that I can ONLY control what I, personally, teach my daughter. I can only control what happens in MY home. I can teach my daughter what is right and wrong.
My Mom gives D5 an incredible gift every day she is over at their house. She respects my Dad for the male role model that he can be for his Grandaughter. It is wonderful because it is so obvious how much my Mom respects my Dad for who he is... THAT is what I want D5 to learn about family.
Sorry cat.. I went completely off on a tangent on your thread
