Hi all! WAS left six months ago, so far there's only little contact, mainly on the phone and always with a reason. When he calls, he's always arrogant and unemotional. He never asks anything personal and shows no interest at all in everything that concerns me. I don't know what to do. Should I initiate more contact or stay dark? I don't want to push him. So far I thought he's cold only towards me but two days ago I heard from a person who doesn't know him very well that he had the impression an iceberg was sitting in front of him. He wouldn't show any emotion and shut himself completely down. Is this a good sign that he may come around? Or is it bad because he confides in no one and projects all his bad feelings on me? Is there a way to get through to him?
Me -32 BF -28 together since 2002 not married no kids
I'm not sure what to tell you, I did read through your other thread for more detail. I unfortutnately feel, not married, no kids, hey, you have your whole life ahead of you.
But, if it is your desire to have him back, you've got to make him want you back, which souds like a bit of work as from what you say, he's checked out pretty hardcore.
I'd definately back off, and focus on myself for a while. Do the usual, search yourself out, evaluate what changed in you to change him and fix that FOR YOURSELF. Spoil yourelf a bit too while you're at it and enjoy what you can and keep your midn clear of it.
As a LBS I am a firm believer in not making initial contact, just wish I'd of figured that out sooner.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
