I am posting over at the WAW section. My wife, I believe is in midlife based on her dropping the bomb speech and everything else. I am 5 months into this and have received tremendous support form this board. I have been doing the db'ng and I am doing well on a a personal level, but my emotional level is still waivering. She is with OM which makes it difficult. It took me time to realize that none of this had anythng to do with me, relaitionship or my marriage, this site really brought things to perspective.

I find myself wanting to throw in the towel, sometimes it seems like too much. I give credit to everyone who has survived and reconciled, but my fear now is that she doesn't appear to be coming back, ever. I know there are no guarantees in this. I have spent the last 5 months working on myself and have done very well. she lives with one of her friends in a room in her house. I have packed up ll her clothes and taken down all pictures of her. there is no sign in my house that she ever existed. her comments to her frineds, "I'm glad he's moving on". I know I am not supposed to believe anything that comes out of her mouth, but it all still hurts to think he is thinking this way. Do you have any advice for getting thru the low spots and what keeps you motivated? I am thinking that I haven't gone to church and since I've been trying everything I am tinking of giving it a whirl. I am thinking it is out of my hands, everything is up to her so maybe I should put it in his hands. I will see her tomorrow for thanksgiving at her dad's. I wasn't gonna go but my two younger D's will be there and they want me to go. I have not said more than 5 sentences to her in over a month. Our only communication is texting a couple of times a month for her to pay her share of the car insurance. financially she is not good at all. I am caught up with all my bills, no late notices a all. First time in over a year. Looking for advice and some happy ending stories. Is it possible top really reconcile after she has been with another man, and i don't know if i can last another month let alone 1-3 years. Thanks